Altona, 10 July 2021
10 July 2021
18 May 2021
Letter to Marlis MArch-April
Barooga
NSW, 7 May 2021,
Hi
Marlis,
That’s
right, all the way over in Barooga in NSW today, driving Yumi back and forth to
a work thing. I’ve parked the car next to a river and the only thing you can
hear is the birds and oh, there’s a Kookaburra! I hope you are doing well now
that the ACT is hitting the frosty lows again, it’s hard to imagine sitting in
25degrees just now π. The past 2 months have been as
eventful as they could be, so I’ll just get into it straight away.
Hamilton
trip
Not
to the musical Hamilton, I always get so confused when they first act, then
dance and sing, I never know what to do! No, the place Hamilton near the
Grampians national park. We once visited there about 10 years ago when we came
to Australia for the second time and the weather was so miserable, we ended up
not seeing or doing much for 3 days. This time around it couldn’t have been
more different. The weather was gorgeous, the little bed and breakfast we
stayed at was lovely and at night the stars were so bright and visible we could
see parts of the Milky Way and even the Magellan Clouds (small parts of other
galaxies), which just doesn’t happen in Altona with all the light pollution
from industry and the city nearby. As always, Yumi had crafted a very good
travel plan and we climbed mountains, visited cultural sites and bushwalked to
our heart’s content. We drove up along the Surf Coast and great Ocean Road and
you just know you’ve become a local when you don’t even stop at the 12 Apostles
or any of the other tourist traps because, well, you’ve seen them more than a
few times and they’re rocks, so they don’t change much, haha. Instead, we went
inland and got a little bit lost in a volcanic crater park because ethe signage
was so strange and all over the place. We found our way back and called it a
day for then, without Yumi I’d still be wandering around there now… At the
cottage we could play with the cat, who also wanted to sit on Yumi’s lap all
night, there were some sheep and alpacas and a veggie garden where we could get
fruit and some veggies for our snacks and meals. It was all pretty good. Aside
from the fire alarm going off full tilt, not once, but twice, so I pried it off
the ceiling and took its batteries out. That’ll teach it! On the way back we
stopped in Ballarat to visit the regional art museum and it was much better
than expected. It was only supposed to be a stop to stretch our legs a bit, but
we ended up staying much longer than expected. They had all sorts of
interesting paintings, art installations and contemporary works by local people
and the building itself is also a piece of art on the inside. You’d never guess
form the outside, with its black and brown faΓ§ade, but the inside is bright,
colourful and light.
Work/Career
change
You
know that job I was so happy to have and go to every week? Yeah, I quit that 2
weeks ago…There was very little drama in the whole event and we parted on good
terms. Two months ago, my boss had spoken to one of my teachers who mentioned
that I was rushing things and wasting materials. The rushing thing is true and
I changed that a lot since then, but the wasting material is just nonsense,
also, I pay for those materials myself, so I feel I can make a mistake or two. Anyway,
my boss spoke to me about it, I said I’d do better and then two weeks ago he
felt that it was necessary to repeat the whole thing again. I let him do the
talking and then at the end he said he felt like I wanted to say something too.
I wasn’t going to say anything, just having promised Yumi that I would give it
my best try, but he really opened the door and I decided that enough was enough.
I
explained how I felt that this was not going to work if he treated me like a 17-year-old
and that it made me feel like this was maybe not the job or even career for me.
He didn’t take that too bad but said that he had many things going on and that
I needed to sort my sh** out and fast. Now I am never one to walk away from a
challenge, so in the calmest of ways I told him that I’d make his life really
easy, pack my stuff and leave. Despite being 2 team members down already, I
think we was very happy with that outcome. I always felt like I was a bit of a
disappointment to him for some reason and life’s too short to live or work like
that. I’ve written a blog post abut it that I’ve included all the way in the
end, so you can read even more if you like.
Since
then, I’ve had a think and decided to call it quits with the tradie life. I
gave a good shot for nearly 18 months, but this is where I’ll get off the bus.
I’ve decided to go back into some form of consulting. I thought I was going to
be totally stressed out, but I am actually doing fine. I might end up working
with one of Yumi’s business partners on a few things and have a few ideas of my
own that I’d like to work on. The Change community was happy to have me back,
judging by the dozens of comments and messages I got since announcing my career
reversal. Never a dull moment in the life of Gilbert! By the time I write the next letter, some
kind of plan will probably have formed and I’ll tell you all about it.
School
and training
With
me quitting my job, that also means that TAFE is coming to an end and “good
riddance”, I say! The teachers are good, but it’s all so poorly designed and
organised that things take twice as long and having to ask what I need to do
for every step, yeah, that’s just not me. I did manage to finish my desk (see
picture on the next page) which also means I completed my first-year furniture
making apprenticeship! I’ll get a statement of attainment, so that if I ever
decide to go back and finish it, I can start form that point on, so that was totally
worth the last 3 days of last week. I also got to hang out with one of the best
teachers and he helped me sharpen my chisels to such a point that I can now
perform simple surgeries on humans and farm animals if required. Probably not a
good idea though π.
On
the same day I quit my job, I also got the news that I passed the exam for my
Cert4 Training and Assessment. Now I don’t want to sound like a total whinger,
but that was one of the most terrible courses I’ve ever done. The people and
organisation were lovely, but the paperwork and repetitive work were beyond
funny. I honestly think I wrote a 300-page book of forms and templates. I was
super excited to get the qualification because it allows me to teach at unis,
TAFEs and schools in a casual capacity, but I will never, ever do this again if
I can help it. Aside from the refresher courses every few years, those can’t be
too bad…Right?! Well, they can’t be any worse than the course itself, if only
because it’s just 2 days!
SES
activities
It
was relatively quiet with callouts for a while, aside from the possibility that
we’d be going to WA to help out with the cyclone damage over there. But then
they went in lockdown and all things got stopped. It’s always a weird feeling,
because you want to go and help, but you’re also happy that you don’t have to,
because that means things are under control. Well, sort of, because in
East-Gippsland, people still need help and not much is happening there now that
the media has moved on to the next crisis.
I’ve
started my truck license and passed the theory exam already, even had an hour
behind the wheel of our own very old truck that will be replaced in a few
weeks’ time. I need a few more lessons because some habits I’ve developed over
time are not good enough when you’re driving a 3-axle 27 tonne block of steel.
I had my truck license 15 years ago, but let it expire when we came to
Australia. I hadn’t driven a truck for 8 years by then and didn’t think it was
safe to just get behind the wheel. I mean, we see enough accidents on the roads
around Melbourne and now that I’ve seen the theory exam, I understand why. It
was So.Much.Harder. in the Netherlands!
Yumi’s
work, courses and training
Yumi
keeps powering on and working with her clients all over the country. She was in
Canberra last weekend to meet with her business partners in person for the
first time in more than 12 months. It sounds like it was a good meeting,
because she came back full of energy and plans, which is the version of her
that I like best. A lot of things that had been on the boil for a while are now
finally getting pushed to the next step or will be brought to a close, so
that’s progress! Between all that busy business work, she’s also managed to
complete 2 trainings. One more in the space of thinking about yourself and how
your respond to the world, the other about a certain method that consultants
use to get results without making organisations and the people in them jump
through hoops. She’ll end up delivering that training to others now as well and
will perhaps even do a few consulting jobs for Semco Australia. I think she got
a lot out of it and even made the course better for others. Money well spent
for sure!
Bronn
the foster dog
The
day after we came home from our Hamilton break, we picked up foster dog #3,
Bronn. His whole litter was named after character from Game of Thrones, a
popular, be it slightly gruesome, t-series. He’s named after a mercenary and
that is just so funny because he is a massive grey hound of nearly 40kgs, but
also the biggest scaredy pants you’ll ever meet! In hindsight, the other two
gave us a real easy time. He was just the loveliest and most gentle dog, but
afraid of the wind, cars, the trains, the train horn, loud noise and fast
movements. He probably led a very sheltered life so far. He’ll get there
eventually though because he was just so smart. He recognised reflections,
understood doorknobs and how he would get a treat if he had all four of his
paws on his mat. He was the only one so far that Yumi felt safe to leave in the
living room while we were out and aside from the occasional ‘stolen’ shoe, he
didn’t get up to mischief at all. He also was enormously food motivated and ate
everything we gave him, which was a very pleasant change from the other two. We
learn so much from every next one, this is just too much fun to stop doing. His
anxiety and stress caused him to lash out to me a few times, but he doesn’t
mean to harm you, just trying to tell me he was scared, so I don’t blame him,
just kept my distance when I could. He’s back at the shelter now and I am sure
they’ll find a good home for him, maybe after a bit more training on how to use
stairs because that remained a bit of a challenge till the end. Below are some
pictures of him on his mat, exploring the water, proudly standing on the
landing of some stairs outside and sniffing all the snack for his birthday on
the 28th of April. The only time we had grilled chicken in the house
and he loved it!
I’ve
started working with an animal shelter in Grafton, NSW just because they asked
for help. The lady, Sally, has turned 70 and feels like it’s time to start slowing
down and hand over the ‘business’. It’s early days still, but I’ve been asked
to write up a strategy, a media plan, a succession plan, a fundraising strategy
and a few other things that shouldn’t be too hard. I plan to take it slow and
there’s no need to rush as she has a 5-year plan in mind. Then again, she’s had
three strokes so far and things might not be up to her completely. I handed in
the draft documents this Wednesday and learned a lot in the process. Very
curious to see what happens next. There’s a very small chance that Yumi and I
will take over the shelter if everything works out just right, but for now I am
designing it all for someone else and it’s just good to use my brain for these
sorts of things again!
Small
things
· BeachPatrol,
where we clean the beaches and streets in Altona has started up again and it’s
good to be out and cleaning up again. Now that things are getting back to some
sense of normal, littering is back as well, so there’s work to do!
· My
friend Peter and I will be working on a comic book about Change management and
what doesn’t work and maybe even design a game where one team needs to make
change happens, while the other team does everything they can to make it fail.
Even if nothing comes of it, I just love working with him because we have so
much fun.
· All
the family in the Netherlands are getting their Covid shots and we feel much better
knowing they’ve been vaccinated. Australia is so much better off than any other
country I know of, it’s just amazing to see thousands of new infections and no
one seems to car that much I hope you also decide to go and get the Pfizer one.
There are some very rare problems with the Zeneca one, but knowing how tough
you are, you probably wouldn’t even notice it if you caught Covid anyway π.
Alright,
that’s it form me for now, please stay safe and warm and I’ll write soon again
with my adventures from May and June.
Gilbert
This
is the piece I wrote on my ‘professional’ blog:
To make sense of my career changing events of the last week or so, I
imagined meeting myself at a networking event and answering some questions
I might have after not seeing me there for 18 months. Here’s how I imagine this
conversation would go.
Where
have you been all this time?
I decided that I needed a break from Change management and how it was
being practiced. I wanted to find out if working with my hands was a better
career option for me. After two workplaces and a year of TAFE I realised that
the mature age apprentice life is definitely not for me.
What
made you quit?
In hindsight it was two big things that were made worse by smaller
things. Big thing one was that I had interviewed way too well and got a
reference that was so glowing that people all around Torquay had to shut their
blinds for 3 days. I could simply not live up to that, despite my best efforts.
Big thing two is that I was arguably the worst apprentice ever. My work ethic
is beyond compare, but I consider myself too old for most BS that a teenager
will put up with. Add to this that my last boss and I have very similar
personalities and we brought out the worst in each other by just being
ourselves. Being told that I needed to get my sh*t sorted (and fast) while I
was trying to explain that I wasn’t sure if this was the life for me, sealed
the deal for me. It was also the first time that after six months I was still
the least performing person on a team of legends. After a while I got the sense
that mistakes were no longer acceptable and that I was simply not good enough
to keep around. Life’s too short for that and the team deserves better, so off
I went. That’s my version of events, a story with an okay ending and no heroes
or villains.
Has
it changed you in meaningful ways?
I sure hope so. It would be quite depressing if 18 months of being in a
completely different environment, doing very, very different things would leave
me unchanged. My patience has improved at least 5-fold! But before you get
excited, that’s from 2% to 10%, so let’s hold off on the celebration just yet.
I am less confident than I used to be and I like to think I am a bit more
easy-going, less intense. People often mistake my intensity for passion, but
it’s really just frustration with the way things are, voiced in a pleasant and
sometimes amusing way.
What
was the best thing about it?
So many things! Every day is different, new places to go, things to do,
furniture to finish and offcuts to set on fire. What’s not to love?! I got to
work with truly talented people and make beautiful things that people want to
own and sometimes designed themselves. The trade took me all around Melbourne
when lockdowns 1,2 and 3 happened and kept me working and learning when so many
others had the roughest of times. I’ve visited many schools, businesses, the
poshest of homes and lots of other strange and wonderful places that Change
never took me. On top of that I now have a full kit of tools that I know
how to use if I ever want to make an okay-ish piece of furniture. And that’s not
even mentioning the hundreds of hours of podcast on science and history I could
listen to while working in an ‘office’ with the best view and coolest workshop
dogs ever. Good times indeed.
What
was the worst about it?
TAFE, without a doubt. Imagine a kitchen where 16 incompetent young
people (and old me) are cooking a somewhat specified meal, using the same
tools, pots, pans and the same space, with little to no instruction and
guidance and everyone can stir pots, change the temperature of the oven and mix
up ingredients. That’s not a meal you’d serve anyone. Most of the teachers were
masters of their craft but the system itself is beyond repair and caused so
much frustration that I was looking forward to leaving by the time I walked in.
I also didn’t enjoy feeling incompetent for months on end. Apparently, that’s
part of the process, which makes me feel that the process is in serious
trouble. I figured I’d feel more competent, skilled and trusted as months went
by, but the exact opposite was true for me. Perhaps it was one of those: “once
you know how little you know, it’s hard to remain confident about what
you do know” kind of situations. I’ve been known to be
my own worst enemy…
What
did you learn?
So many things! Probably the most important thing was to not drill into my hand! Not only does it hurt
quite a bit while it heals, it also really freaks people out. Their screaming
is a lot worse than the blood. Another thing I learned is that it feels better
to work pro bono than for minimum wage. I always had respect for people doing
hard work for minimum wage, now that I’ve experienced it myself, that respect
has at least doubled. Another key learning was that almost every mistake can be
fixed if you have enough time. Also, sometimes IKEA is easier, faster and almost
always cheaper than making it yourself from scratch.
Any
regrets?
No, it was totally worth it, even though I would not recommend this kind
of career change to just anyone and probably never do it again myself. Despite
having failed in what I set out to do, the experience of stepping away from
Change and fully committing to a completely new trade gave me some much-needed
perspective and helped me regain creativity I didn’t even know I had lost.
Did
you miss the Change Community? Even a little bit?
I missed the people and conversations a lot, for sure. But LinkedIn and
Twitter kept me connected to long-time Change friends and in the loop on the
big things. With 2020 being the social and professional dumpster fire it was
for so many, I feel like this was the best year to take a break. For once, my
timing was spot on! I’m not saying that nothing has changed in Change, but now
that the roar of lockdown terror, vaccine anger and all the posts on making
sense of a post-COVID world have subsided a bit, I think we’re once again
hearing all those good ideas and new initiatives that got drowned out before.
So much new ideas to look forward to!
You’re
here tonight, does that mean you’re back to doing Change work?
Short answer, yes. If the right challenge comes along; I’ll jump on it
to get back into things. Longer answer: I’m not sure if I want to. From what
I’ve seen from 20 minutes on job boards, the change job market is as mercenary
as it’s always been. I’ve got a few things I am working on with Purpose at Work
in board advisory on quality and safeguarding and if things go well, I’ll be
creating a whole new toolkit on purposeful practices in disability, aged and
social care. I am also looking forward to the third round of Change Tools
Masterclasses for Deakin. I still prefer short term, complex and hard to solve
challenges and I think everyone is better off if I am my own boss moving
forward.
Good
to see you again, I hope the community welcomes you back with their usual
enthusiasm!
Thanks for the chat, I enjoy being back and look forward to finding out
what people have been up to.
9 March 2021
Letter to Marlis Jan-Feb 2021
Altona, 8 March 2021
Hi Marlis,
I hope things are going well for you in the ACT and
that you had more of a Summer than we had down here in the South. We had a few
warm days but that was about it. Then again, last year around this time the
whole country was on fire, so maybe missing out on one Summer isn’t all that
much of a drama π!
The past 2 months have gone by really quick, but I don’t feel like much has happened. Oh well, let’s see what happens when I start writing!
Upcoming road trip
We’re quite excited to go for a bit of a drive at the
end of the week. Destination: Albury, of all places. I’ll be there to help run
a workshop for an aged care service provider together with Yumi’s colleague
Alan. Him and I developed the materials and program together last year and this
is the second delivery. It’s pretty cool that people are warming up to the idea
of more modern practices for quality and safeguarding in aged care. You might
have caught some things on the news how bad the situation sometimes gets in
these homes and service facilities. I just get so mad every time another
scandal comes up, it’s like we never learn! At least we’ll be doing something
about it on a small scale with people who make the decisions and hopefully make
some changes. Yumi will travel with me and just do some work at the hotel most
of the day, I think. We’ll be sure to spend some time around town and go for
some lovely Indian food while we’re there. I hope they survived all the Covid
unpleasantness…
Easter break
In 3 weeks from now, we’re taking a week off at work
for Easter, which means we get to go travelling once again. Yumi’s slowly
turning into a hermit and hardly needs to go out as most of her work can be
done online or over the phone, so it will be good to get out and see some
different scenery. We’ll be staying in Hamilton, which sits in the middle
between Warrnambool on the Great Ocean Road and the Grampians, so we’ll be
getting some sea and some mountains. I predict lots of walks and reading and
lots of food of course!
Work
Work has been the good kind of busy. I am very slowly
progressing to more complicated things and so far, I have made 2 tables
(pictures below), more or less by myself. The one with the black legs was about
2.7 meters long and 1.2 meters wide. The White-legged one was 3 meters by 1.2,
but out of 60mm timber and so heavy! I think that when it was all done, it
weighed at least 100kgs. Good luck getting that through the front door! Then
again, most people who can afford our furniture probably have double doors and
servants to carry stuff, haha.
I truly enjoy the work of selecting timber, gluing and sanding and then finishing. I also do the maintenance of machines, keeping inventory, cleaning, making samples, packing away timber, fixing on the backs, doors and shelves and virtually anything else that needs doing. I’ve now been there 5 months and that’s the longest I’ve worked for a single employer in the past 4 years, so that’s a bit of an adjustment. I also like the variety of no two days being the same and the team is good to work with too. We’ve been producing like crazy and sometimes there’s so many items awaiting shipment that it’s hard to move around, but it’ll be a long time before I complain about being busy. After Easter I might get upgraded to building simple cabinets, which is something I really look forward to as well.
School
By some kind of miracle, my school has finally figured
out how to get organised. I’ve gone to school in early February for 4 days and
managed to build most of a ladder chair (see picture). It was a comedy of
errors to get it done and I am still amazed that it came out the way it did.
I made up heaps of time in the glue up
phase because I brought some glue from work that cures in 20 minutes while the
glue from school takes 4-8 hours… The next part
for this block is building a desk. I hope to at least get all my timber sorted
so that I can take it home (or to work) and finish it there. That way I’ll
still be able to finish my first year on time without any difficulty. I hope
that I’ll feel better and like I am progressing with this whole career change
thing when I get to call myself a second-year apprentice.
Yumi’s work
Yumi’s been busy as always. Not only with her clients,
but she’s also doing 2 training courses at the same time because, why not?! π
One is about a certain kind of management system that
is called Semco-style and based on the practices of a South American company
that decided to change the way they do business in all ways that matter. Staff
hire their own colleagues, make their own decisions about work rosters, pay
checks and bonuses. It worked extremely well for them and although she’s not
learning a great deal, she’s ‘meeting’ new people, expanding her network and
doing something else than working all the time. And the trainer has asked her
to deliver the next set of classes in Australia, so I think she’s on top of it!
The other training was a free ticket for a 4-week course based on the work of a
very famous speaker from the US, BrenΓ©e Brown. She’s all about courageous leadership and
people around the world (millions and millions of them) love her work. I am
very impressed by her delivery and smart business model but can’t say that her
message of fearless leadership really works for me. Yumi is the same, but to
her credit, she’s giving it a go and hopes to get some useful pointers from
those 5am and 6am starts, haha. I’ve also starter raising with her that even
though her biggest client loves her to pieces; she’s been working with them for
about 18 months now. Maybe it’s time to look for a new challenge? Obviously,
it’s literally none of my business, but because I am a bit further removed, I
can see that she’s starting to get incorporated, which is never a good thing
for an advisor. Ah well, she’s smart,
she’ll sort it!
SES
It’s been blessedly quiet on the call-out front with
SES. We had a few weird jobs, even one that required lights and sirens because a
person was allegedly stuck in one of those close donation bins. We didn’t find
anyone when we arrived on scene, so they either got out or it was a prank.
Another was a sailboat that had run aground. This happens quite often on the
bay, but there’s hardly anything we can do. It was pretty cool that we beat
everyone else there because we happened to be at the unit doing some
maintenance. And then we stood around on shore with the Ambulance people while
we waited for the water police to give them a tow back to the pier. Good thing
we waded through 1.5km of swamp land first and then got told we could go home haha!
I’ve also been busy with the new recruits and their training. They’re nearly done with the first part and it looks like they will all pass their test, yay! Especially good because there are 4 women in this group and we can really do with more of them, so fingers crossed they stick around. I’ve got some training lined up for myself as well later this month. It’s about land-based swift water rescue, which is fancy speak for rescuing people when the water comes on land. They could be stuck in cars, caught in rising flood waters in their homes or a number of other unlikely scenarios that always seem to happen at 2am in the morningπ. Then yesterday I heard I might get my truck license training and even some 4WD train-the-trainer training this year, so lots of fun things to look forward to!
Last week, some of us, including me, got a token of appreciation for our efforts in the Summer fires of 2020 in the shape of a pin. We can wear it on our uniform overalls and it has a pelican on it, so I decided to wear it. I am never really one for awards and that sort of thing, but it’s nice to get some recognition, I guess, even if it’s 12 months down the track. A few exceptional people will be presented with the Service Medal, but that is a much shorter list and I am pretty sure they’ve earned it more than a few times over. Let’s hope the next pin doesn’t get awarded until 2030 or even later.
Podcasts
I’m very much into listening to podcasts since a few
months. A podcast is basically a recording of people talking about different
subjects for different lengths of time. There are 100,000’s if not millions of
them on the internet to choose from! At work we wear headphones all day to
protect our hearing and we all have very fancy ones that you can link
(wirelessly) to your phone to listen to music or whatever you like. I tend to
go for the history and science ones, sometimes a bit of stand-up comedy and
every now and then I just listen to the latest hits from Japan, Korea, India,
China or Russia to mix things up a bit. I don’t have to understand what they
say, some background noise is fine. I started with Dr. Karl and learning about
the universe and all sorts of biology and psychology. Then I started listening
to Evil Genius, which takes historical figures and presents some facts about
them that very few people know. It seems that a lot of them (men and women)
were very racist and rather unpleasant to their kids or family. It makes me
wonder about what people will say about the ‘greats’ of our time in 50 years
from now. Another one of my favourites is ‘You’re dead to me’, which is all
about historical events and people whose stories have become so warped and
romanticised that there’s very little connection to what actually happened. But
never let the truth get in the way of a good story, right?! It keeps me
entertained and I feel like I learn a lot while I learn about furniture making.
How’s that for a win-win!
Changing careers progress
Last week I got a call from a business asking if I
would like an apprenticeship with them. I had handed in my resume 10 (!) months
ago after all. Yeah, nah, thanks, I’m good. My career change is still very much
a work in progress. I expected that after more than a year I would have found
my groove and most days I am fine with the choices I made, but some days I
really doubt if this was the best thing for me. I absolutely hate being an
apprentice, not knowing what to do and everyone telling me what to do most of
the day. Not that they are unpleasant about it, not at all, it just doesn’t
work for my independent and autonomous self. I know it takes time and that my
patience and accuracy need work, I somehow had thought that I would feel more competent
and confident in my skills by now. The exact opposite is true though. I feel
more insecure and incompetent as the months go by, wondering if I will ever be
good at this whole furniture making thing. I feel like I gave up a lot to gain
very little so far. I really hope that this will change in the coming months,
it’s not a great feeling. Ah well, let’s see what happens. In the meantime,
I’ll keep practicing being patient.
Covid snap lockdown
We had a brief 5-day lockdown a months ago to get some
possible outbreaks under control here in Melbourne and it was encouraging to
see how quickly everyone fell back into the routine of mask-wearing and
distancing. For me it was mostly just a week off as Yumi could continue working
and I was basically doing chores around the house and playing video games. I
don’t think this will be the last lockdown we’ll have and with every next one
we’ll have more experience to draw from. Looking at the rest of the world, I
think we can consider ourselves very lucky once again to be living on this big
red island π. Last
weekend, we went to give blood and had some free tickets to go see a movie in
the cinema. It felt a bit strange to do things we didn’t do for nearly 12
months. If nothing else, we enjoy and appreciate everything out of the ordinary
a lot more.
Next foster dog
Yumi is counting down the days until we’re good to
have our third foster dog, so be prepared for some pictures in the next letter!
It will be another 4 weeks because she’s got a few work things and we’re doing
a bit of travel. Apparently, 10 April is the date she picked for a new
four-legged friend to come and stay with us. So basically, on the way back from
the Grampians! The toys are washed, the bedding repaired and the snacks
prepared, so we’re almost good to go. She showed me the list of the dogs up for
foster right now and it looks like we’ll get a young one this time, maybe only
1 year old. It’ll be fun to have a doggo around the house again, lots of things
to laugh about as greyhounds are quite the cheeky dogs!
Friends and family
There’s only good news on the friends and family
front. All are healthy and most have really long hair! They are soldiering on
through their extended lockdowns, while trying not to be annoyed by all these
Covid-deniers claiming it’s all a big conspiracy from the lizard people who
secretly rule the world through our mobile phones. Sigh.
Our friend Alex is doing something cool as a side job now. He’s always been in logistic and purchasing roles and has a real talent for those things. He decided that he wants some financial independence down the road, so did the work, built his network and got some training and coaching to become a real estate investor. In the Wales market, where there appear to be many opportunities. I’ve known him for 20+ years and he’s never failed at anything, so we offered to set him up with some starting capital. The money is just sitting in the bank for us anyway and with nearly 0% interest, his offer of 6% return seemed pretty good. Turns out that’s what we lose in exchange rates, haha. Oh well, it’s worth it to help a friend! Everyone else seems to be doing well and is keeping busy. Jobs are getting done, birthdays celebrated, all that good stuff. One of our nephews turned 13 yesterday. I clearly remember changing his diapers (not fun) a long time ago and it’s hard to comprehend he is a teenager now. I must be getting old π.
Those seem to be the main events of the past two months; I’ll write again early May. By then we’ll be coming up on Winter, had another foster dog, been on lots of trips and I’ve hopefully completed my first year of apprenticeship as well.
Stay warm and be well,
Gilbert
9 January 2021
Letter to Marlis Nov-Dec 2020
Altona, January 2021
Happy New Year Marlis!
I hope you survived the social obligations of
Christmas and New Year’s well enough and that you are enjoying some of the nicer
summer weather in the best part of Australia!
I truly feel these holidays should be spaced apart a
bit more, like July and December, but no one has asked my opinion about this yet
and I don’t think they will any time soon… π
It’s been another busy two months, with lost of work,
life and school stuff happening, so let’s get started!
Christmas at home
It has been a while since Yumi and I spent the Christmas
holidays at home. We generally go on a diving or adventure trip, but last year
was different in a lot of aspects and travel was proving ‘too hard’ with all
the closures and restrictions. And we also had a foster dog to look after, but
more on that later. Never one to just sit and do nothing, I made a long list of
things to do and got it all done. π
I did some school stuff, lots of SES calls, some home improvement,
tried out a few new vegan baking recipes, read a few books, bought some new
work clothes and played a lot of video games. So, I basically did what I always
do, but without going to work…Geez, my life is boring, haha.
We’ve never been a fan of Christmas decoration or
fireworks, so there was no cleaning up or packing away and while the weather
wasn’t great for most days, we still had a good time. We even did a little one-day
road trip down the coast, which is always nice to just drive and chat. This
year, diving is most certainly the preferred option, but we’ll have to see how things
stand around then.
Work
I am getting quite used to being covered in dust and
wood chip all day. I saw a t-shirt that said: “This is not sawdust, it’s man
glitter!” and that’s exactly how I feel most daysπ. The end of the year was super busy at work, which
meant that we actually worked all five days of the week. I know, shocking,
right?!
I got into a bit of a funk near the end, because I am still not allowed to do most things, but somewhere during the Christmas break I made my peace with that and now I am much better again. It was just that everything had been cleaned, sorted, burned, organised, fixed and cleaned again and then I ran out of things to do. I am not at my best when I feel like I am not adding value, but now I just relax and think that as long as I do what is asked, that’s good enough. The team all really appreciate what I do, because it makes their lives easier and this week, we finished a day earlier because of what I do, so ha!
The work year has started really well with me doing lots of new things and what feels like ‘real work’. It is still just gluing sticks, filling holes, sanding boards and making simple parts, but that’s also part of the job. Small steps, small steps…
Yumi’s work
Yumi landed another project right before Christmas and
another is about to start, on top of what she’s already been doing. Safe to say
she’s doing really well and decided to just work some more over the Christmas
break. I don’t worry too much because I did the same in my previous work life
and never felt to stressed about it. There’s busy days and not so busy days,
but it all levels out quite well. She seems to be enjoying herself and her clients
love her and her work, so there’s not really anything to complain about. The
training course she started last year continues in the next few weeks, so I
guess that’ll keep her out of trouble π.
SES
Things have been flat out with SES as well. Now that
we’re allowed to train on site at our unit again, we’re almost back to normal.
I’ve started the training of 8-10 new recruits and it’s been great fun. It took
us long enough to get organised, as we were supposed to get started in September,
but we’re here now and making heaps of progress. It’s a bit of a talk fest at
the moment, with me doing most of the talking, but that will change from this
week on, where they finally get to do more things and work with the equipment
hands-on. I just want them to have a really good time, because if the start is
good, they generally stick around and this seems like a good bunch, just like
the last group.
We had a ‘weather event’ (what normal people call a storm) come through around Christmas and in one week I attended 20 call outs across 5 days. It’s always good fun, but less so when it’s pouring down rain and there’s trees and branches falling everywhere. Broken roller doors, roof tiles flying off, lots of broken (really big) branches, trees on roads and a few people trapped in flood waters. It’s all in a day’s work. It was good to be out and about this time around, because I missed the previous 2 years due to holidays. We always work really well as a team and the appreciation alone from the community is enough for me.
This weekend and next I’ll be going back to Bunyip, where a lot of properties got damaged in the 2019 fires. We were there last year and that was such a good experience that we offered to help out again. It’s mostly just clearing fallen trees on private properties, but it’s a huge help for these people and a great way for us to get some additional hours on the tools and have some fun. Apparently Channel 7 is coming to do a report, so you might see or have seen me on the news if it makes it to national. We always get a full briefing that feel like your mum giving you marching orders right before you visit the family barbecue. I understand they want SES to look good on TV, but what are they seriously thinking we’ll do on camera?! We’re not total idiots. Well, most of us aren’t haha! Below two pictures of me in my uniform, I am the guy with the chainsaw in the back.
That being said, I just got back from day 1 of the
event after just a few hours with a mild case of heat stress. Those were 3 very
unpleasant hours coming back. Headache and nausea despite drinking heaps and
taking breaks, I must be getting old! It’s a shame really, I was having a
really good time and going through the trees like paper, but all of a sudden, I
wasn’t doing great. As a team we decided that I should go back home and not return
today. It’s the right call to make, but still disappointing as I so looked
forward to it. Ah well, we’ll try again in a week’s time if there’s still work
to be done. It’s not that I need the hours to keep up my skills and
there were still about 25 people with chainsaws left, but it’s just annoying ☹. I am fine now, it
comes and goes quickly. π
Tradie school and TAE training
School has been a bit of a mess, but that’s become my
expectation over the past year. A year ago, around this time I started my
pre-apprenticeship training for Carpentry and since then I switched to Cabinet
making in June. We didn’t go to school until October and I missed December due
to work being busy. I didn’t mind that too much really because in November I
missed 2 days because…they had no teacher and 1 because I needed to stay at
work due to others being sick. Long story short; of the 12 half days I could
have had, I had 5.5. But I still managed to get the project done and this is
the end result.
I did most of it in the garage (also known as ‘the
workshop’) on evenings and weekends. With some help from work tools, but mostly
by hand once I cut all the timber on the machines at school. I was quite proud
of the end result, took all the pictures as I went and sent them to my teacher.
I got my marks the next day telling me that I had passed, so that’s project 1
of 6 done! Next up is making a library chair, which is just a fancy timber
chair and I start school again on 1 February, hoping to still finish by April
and then having completed my first year as a Cabbie apprentice.
My TAE (Training and Assessment education) course is
ticking along, despite the mountain of paperwork. Thanks to a change in schedule,
I was able to deliver 3 training sessions to new recruits at SES, fulfilling
the final requirements for part 2 of 3. Now I have only part 3 left, which I hope
to punch out by the end of the month. I did have to redo all the work for this part,
which was not great, but it’s behind me now, so let’s forget about it. There
are a lot of people at my unit who have done this training too and suffered the
same annoyances. They’ve all offered to help out because they remember how
needlessly complicated things got for them too.
Anna the foster dog
Last time I wrote we had just heard we would get our
very first foster dog (Early) and that was a lot of fun and learning for all
three of us. We thought we’d go six weeks without and then early 2021 we’d take
on the next ‘recruit’. But then Yumi got a call asking if we would be willing
to take on Anna over Christmas, so 5 weeks instead of the standard 3. We had
all sorts of travel and trip plans that fell through and had decided to stay
home anyway, so we said yes to number 2!
This is us on the new bench on Christmas Day, with
Anna wearing her very appropriate antlers and out in the park for a picnic with
friends. She was so busy sniffing all the smells she tired herself out, haha.
Anna is one of six dispossessed dogs from a trainer who
lost her license due to malpractice and poor treatment of her animals. She was
very skittish, had some nail and skin issues and judging by the scars on her
body had seen some pretty rough times. She didn’t eat for almost 4 days which
caused her some discomfort and a lot of stress for Yumi. Eventually she got
hungry and/or calm enough to start eating and she ate as much as Early, who was
literally half again as big as her. He was 36 kg, she’s a lot smaller, but
still a big girl at 24kg.
One of our tasks is to try and fatten her up to get to 27, which is going quite well and her coat is much shinier and softer than it was. We have her for one more week before she takes her test and goes up for adoption. She is a very different dog from Early, but equally lovely and she’ll find a new home for life in days, just like him for sure! She’s 4 years old, so very curious, loves chewing on carton boxes and gets super excited when we go for walks. She wants to meet every single person, cat, dog, bird and tree, so you can imagine that walks take a little while. She loves riding in the car and figured out how to walk up and down stairs on day 2, just so she could be with Yumi in her office. She sleeps most of the day, but when she’s not, she’s digging holes in the backyard, burying her toys and catching flies. π I thought it would be fun to just go and run on the beach with her. Big mistake. She pulled me to my knees in no time, resulting in a very unpleasant scrape on my knee that only took the whole holiday to heal. Me and my great ideas, haha.
We’ll be happy to be without for a while as it is a lot of work and maintenance for Yumi mostly. I just vacuum every day and try not to look at our white tile floor to closely…They said black haired greyhounds don’t shed as much hair as white ones. Well, I can tell you that’s 100% NOT true. Just as much, possibly more!
Small stuff
· You’ll be happy to hear I’ve started to take some
vitamins. Because of my vegan diet, I don’t get any B12. Despite feeling
healthy and well, I’ve felt over the past few months that my eyesight started
to go a bit and B12 deficiency might be one of the causes for that. Or I am
just getting older, which is equally possible. I’ll give it a few months and
see how it goes, it won’t hurt me, but at $22 for a bottle of 60 tablets, I’ll
not just take them for the fun of it.
· Family and friends are doing well. My friend Danielle
from the ACT is going to be a mum. I never thought she would, but that just
shows what I know. They’ll do great as parents for sure. Our friends Anna and
Jamie have moved back to Perth, which is sad for me, but great for them. She
never really warmed to Melbourne, like me and always longed to go back. Good
for them! I also met with 2 ex-colleagues from Deakin, who work just 10 minutes
away from where I work and it was really good to see them and catch up.
· Over Christmas we’ve scoped out some of the towns near Torquay to see if we could live there and we probably could but found out that we are in no real hurry. Maybe in a few months we’ll revisit the plans, right now the drive is pleasant enough to make and moving seems like too much hassle
That’s it for this time around, make sure to enjoy summer and stay well. I’ll write again early March π
GGilbert
Ps. Below is the piece I wrote early December for my
professional network about what it’s like to be an apprentice for me. I thought
you might like to read it too.
Looking back on 1 year as an apprentice
It’s that time of year where many of us reflect and
look back to take stock of the year gone by. I don’t think anyone will disagree
that 2020 as an experience was solid ‘1/5 stars,
would-not-recommend-where-is-the-skip-button-on-this-thing?!’ nightmare material
for most people.
Thankfully, not so much for me. The trials and
challenges I had this year were almost entirely of my own making. When I
followed through on my career change from consultant to ‘tradie’ late 2019, I
had no real clue what 2020 had in store. I would probably still have made the
same choice, which is more of a testament to how much I had bottomed out than a
reflection of how ‘courageous’ I am.
It’s been a while since I last wrote about my
apprentice experience. And what a rollercoaster ride it’s been! A redirect from
carpentry to cabinetry, one not-so-great job lost, one totally cool job gained
and trade school being postponed so many times that even I lost the plot. I might
have learned a thing or two and found some answers to hard questions along the
way. Disclaimer: this is not your typical LinkedIn
‘look-at-how-totally-awesome-my-everything-is’ kind of write-up, so if that’s
what you’re after, best stop reading now.
Did I make the right choice?
It wasn’t so much a choice as a necessary change. In
that sense it feels right. I feel incredibly fortunate to have landed
with Bombora Furniture in
Torquay doing work that I like, in a beautiful environment, learning from a
team of people who are both skilled and friendly. I have a lot of good and
worthwhile things to look forward to. If my learning curve continues upwards
like it has, I’ll be a skilled tradie in two to three years and will be one step
closer to my ultimate goal of teaching new skills to disadvantaged people in
regional Australia one day.
Would I do it again?
No. If for any weird and unforeseen reason I’d lose
this apprenticeship, I’d likely go back to some kind of advisory work. The persistent
feelings of incompetence, uncertainty, insecurity and being the least skilled
person in the room are at times so overwhelming and almost physically painful
that I sometimes wonder if it’s worth it. Well, at least I’ve learned a lot
about myself, even if most of it is not pleasant or uplifting. And yes, it
won’t kill me, but will it make me stronger? Or just stranger?
If you’re also thinking of changing careers, I highly
recommend that you take as much time as you need to carefully consider all
angles before moving forward. This is a decision you’ll have to make all by
yourself and a path you mostly walk alone. It won’t be easy, but nothing worth
doing ever is.
Here are 7 experiences that I thought worth sharing.
1.
What you did and
who you were quickly becomes irrelevant
Especially early on, I found myself talking a lot
about what I used to do in Change, what I got up to, what work situations and
experiences I had, that sort of thing. After a while I got pretty annoyed with
myself because it’s like talking about your ex to your new girlfriend on the
first, second and third date. I now realise that was just me letting go of a
persona that I created from certain parts of me over the past six years. My
hands can only take instructions from one persona at a time, so it really was
time to retire that version of me. He seemed tired and a bit over it all anyway.
Changing careers allows you to create a new persona of your best parts to bring
to work, if you’re willing to give it time to emerge and don’t just keep
filling it up with who you used to be. Lesson learned: There’s no need to
fast-track the ‘getting to know me’ process, just let them make up their own
mind and judge you by your actions over time.
2.
Prepare to feel
incompetent and insecure most days
I truly love the work I do now, but thoroughly dislike
being an apprentice. I thought I’d have this humble, grateful and open mindset,
that I’d be happy to learn and experience new things, that every day would feel
like I am building towards something. Yeah, nah... I spend most days getting in
my own way, all the while feeling both annoyed, insecure and incompetent
because I am not allowed do certain things, feel like people are watching my
every move, get the simplest things wrong, and don’t understand things as they
were intended when explained. It’s not humbling, it’s humiliating and tells me
my ego is more fragile than I’d like to admit. It sucks. But I chose this, so it’s
up to me to change my response to the situation, not the other way around. Lesson
learned: THIS is probably what people (unwittingly?) really mean when they say
that it’s sooo brave of me to change careers.
3.
Have a story
ready on the ‘why’ of your career change
Lots of people change careers later in life, but the
(crazy) ones doing it voluntarily are still a small minority overall, so you’ll
always be a bit of a curious novelty for others. I am not great at explaining
things on a good day and often end up waving my hands around and making weird
analogies. After 12 months I’ve told the story of my career change ‘why’ so
many times, I now have it down to: “I didn’t like what I was doing as an
organisational consultant anymore, always wanted to work with my hands and
figured I’d give the trades a try. One year later, here I am.” That seems to
satisfy most people and works well enough for job interviews and motivation
letters too.
Lesson 1 learned: having an explainer story saves
time, provides context and makes people relate to your experience. Lesson 2
learned: literally no one has said to me: “But consultancy is such a fun
and fulfilling thing to spend your time and life on!
4.
The money is what
the money is
$45,000, that’s what it is in year 1, about $60,000 in
year 3. That’s it. And it seems about right. You have no skill, no pace, need
help constantly, interrupt the flow of others and really can’t add much value
other than doing some maintenance, simple tasks and cleaning. To put things
into perspective, you’re still getting paid as much a QUALIFIED disability
support worker or junior social worker. Yes, taking a $75-100,000 pay cut takes
some time to adjust to, but it’s certainly possible, depending on what you are
prepared to give up or go without. I have near-zero responsibility for
anything, one (!) 20-minute meeting a week, no deadlines to speak of and a
healthy (be it dusty) workplace with a great view and team, that allows me to
make new mistakes every day to learn from. Is that worth $100,000? It is to me
and fits the choices my partner and I made earlier in life. Lesson
reaffirmed: Some people are so poor, all they have is money.
5.
You’ll learn most
things in reverse
I’ve always liked processes and finding out how things
work. Cabinet making is like LEGO, but with timber. And very sharp tools. And
saw dust. Okay, it’s nothing like LEGO, but the principle is the same. You have
a picture of the end result on the box/drawing and then you figure out the
steps in between to get there from a set of building blocks/timber boards. One
of my jobs is to oil and polish the finished products my colleagues make. This
teaches me to ‘see with my hands’, notice joint types, pick up on ways to create
features, solve problems and read timber (that’s a thing…). Without those
basics, I wouldn’t know what to look for, what to do or where to begin even if
I had the drawings and unlimited time but seeing and ‘finishing’ the end result
at least gives me a frame of reference for what’s possible. Lesson learned:
Sometimes backwards is the only way forward.
6.
Finding an
apprenticeship is the worst part
Tradies are notorious for not showing up on time, not
returning calls, rescheduling and changing plans at the last minute. From the
inside, I now understand that often there are good reasons for these things
happening. But from my previous life, I also know that a 1-line text or 30
second voicemail message makes a big difference in keeping people on-side. Then
again, I’ve met some truly wonderful and inspiring people during my job search.
There are businesses out there who are willing to give a mature age career
changer a go, some even prefer to work with mature agers!
Unfortunately, the job application process is just
like in Change and equally soul crushing in its apparent indifference and
evident opportunism. You can be as philosophical about it as you want but
getting only six replies (all rejections) to 37 applications is not a great experience
for most people. Age discrimination, illegal wage practices, unsafe tasks and
downright dangerous situations, it’s still happening in 2020. I am sure my
experience is not unique and maybe even more positive than for others. Despite
all that application effort, I ended up finding my first job through a LinkedIn
connection and my second through my TAFE-teacher.
Frustratingly, it was the impression I made on my
referrers and their willingness to vouch for me, that made the difference, not
my CV, my motivation or my experience. Understanding that this is how things still
work is just so frustrating. Why even bother to get qualified, right? In the end it still seems to come down to who
and not what you know. Lesson learned: Don’t take it personal, they don’t know
you as a person, stay with it and eventually you’ll find something that fits
well enough. It takes luck, persistence and flexibility, but you’ll get there. Keep
looking for a place that makes you feel valued.
7.
TAFE is not great
(so far)
Teachers going missing, classes getting dropped, wait
times for using equipment, unclear and incomplete instructions, faulty
technology and quite literally the worst back-office administrative processes I
have ever seen. None of this was in the brochure. I should have known what I
was in for and run for the door when during induction one of the course
managers said: “Welcome to the VU family!” COVID messed things up scheduling-wise
and I get that, but you’d think that 6-8 months would be enough to come up with
a plan or at least a clue. No? What’s that? It’s even worse in other places?! I
am not sure that is even possible, but okay… Good thing my teachers are
skilled, friendly and actually good at teaching or it’d just be a paid-for painful
and unpleasant chore.
Lesson learned: The TAFE system is seriously broken
and no amount of social media happy posting can fix that. But it’s the only way
to get qualified, so try to focus on the good bits.
I hope this write-up paints a realistic picture of
what it’s like to be a mature age apprentice for anyone considering that path.
Most days are good, some are great, some are sh*t, such is life. I’ll write
some more later, right now kitchens need building and floors need sweeping!








