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10 February 2018

Letter to Marlis Dec 2017- Jan 2018


Hi Marlis,

Another two months gone in a flash! Happy new year and all the best for 2018 😊. Thank you for the card and handwritten note, I really appreciated how you enlisted your daughter to help. A lot has happened in just two months, never a dull moment with us, that’s for sure. It’s a big one this time, so let’s get started

Trip to Queensland
The week before Christmas we went on holiday to Far North Queensland and the Great Barrier Reef (GBR), finally. Cairns was where our Australia adventure started when we visited first in 2010 and we fell in love with Australia (took a few days longer for Yumi), so we were happy to be back. The town sure has grown thanks to tourism from Asia and it is busy, but in a nice sort of way. I think the town centre has doubled in size and there are so many more restaurants, shops activities and facilities than when we last visited. Most of it touristy stuff, but still good to see the town prosper. We stayed at two B&B’s because we also went on a 3-day diving trip to the GBR and made a day trip to Port Douglas to do some more diving, visited the rainforest and went on a crocodile tour. The diving in Port Douglas was more to get our gear wet and see if we still knew how to do things and get used to being on a boat. It was ridiculously expensive, but we got to see lot of fun things and overall had a good experience, including seeing heaps of kangaroos along the way and seeing the sugar cane country side. Soon after, our trip to the GBR was good fun. We sorted the logistics of handing in the car the day before and then departed the B&B at 5.30am!) and dropping off our luggage at the dive shop. The reef is very badly bleached in places, but still spectacular in others and a great place to have dived. Over the three days we managed to squeeze in 11 dives, 50km out on the reefs. We saw a few sharks, turtles, big groupers, barracudas, many different types of smaller fish and other animals. We also did two night dives which was a good but slightly disorienting experience as we couldn’t see a lot more than the light of torches and the reflection of the eyes of sharks on the hunt. There were 32 people on the boat and it was remarkably well-behaved and friendly, be it a bit cramped and the crew seemed a bit disinterested. I am not sure we’ll do it again in this way, perhaps next time we’ll go on a boat with less novices, so it’s just the diving and not a lot of people figuring stuff out. We thought we’d be a bit rusty, me not having dived in almost 3 years but it’s like riding a bike, once you know how, it’s hard to forget. We also went on a crocodile tour and until that time I hadn’t realised the real danger of these magnificent animals just being in rivers and minding their own business, very much like big sharks, who then get hunted because they eat people who get in their territory. We saw two big ones and a tiny one, learned about birds, snakes and the forest, lots of fun. The day in the rainforest was also worthwhile. We went up by cable cart and got spectacular views of the forest on one end and the ocean on the other as we climbed. There’s also a village up in the rainforest, which is a massive tourist trap, but we just focused on the nature walks and sights to see, leaving the stores and gift shops to the real tourists. Yumi did take the opportunity to eat a bratwurst in a very German café (including schlager music) run by a German lady and her daughter and we ran into a German couple who we’d also spent time with on the dive boat, small world. The trip back down we did by train (historic railroad they said, it would be fun they said) and that was a mistake in 30+ Queensland heat at 5km/hour down a mountain through 15 (I counted) tunnels. Took forever and even Yumi lost her patience. We were very happy to be back in town, but some of the views were very much worth it.  Finally we visited the botanical gardens of Cairns and they are still very beautiful and worth a visit. They really made good use of the space and with the tropical climate, there’s not a lot they cannot grow so the plant variety was amazing. As you can see, we had a holiday, but were very busy. On the way back home, Yumi caught food poisoning from some bad sushi (normally that would be me) and spent the whole flight sick as a dog ☹. We arrived back home in the early hours of 25 December, but didn’t do much for the
Next few days as Yumi was still unwell and we needed to rest from the holiday activities, haha.

Holidays in Altona
The Christmas break gave us a good opportunity to ground ourselves in the area and get to know our surroundings. The neighbourhood is very quiet, the train passes by every 20 minutes or so but it’s really not that annoying, our windows are double glazed on that end and it lasts all of 20 seconds anyway. No horrible or loud and drunk neighbours, actually, NO neighbours. Our gardener (yes, we have a gardener, he came with the lease and drops by for odd jobs and garden maintenance) tells us the neighbours only use the house as a holiday home and some car storage, good for them and good for us 😊. It’s great to be able to walk to the beach every day and see the ocean (well, the bay…) every day. Sun, clouds or rain, it’s a sight I never grow tired of and it always clears my head and the few worries I have. We’ve started getting our groceries delivered again because I am a Woolies person and we only have a Coles, Foodworks and IGA and it’ just not working for me. I go to Coles, but the store makes me sad just walking there and I ain’t no beauty myself but the people are just so ugly and grumpy! I know that’s terrible to say but they really are. I guess I just miss the Brunswick Woolies. And that’s about the only thing I miss from Brunswick, some of the shops and the good restaurants, not much else!

Back in with CMI
I think I mentioned last time that I was looking to get back into the Change Management Institute (CMI) and would have been happy to be the idea-person, but as it often goes, I ended up being in charge, but just locally,  of the Victorian committee. It was one of those strange situations where I wasn’t looking to be in the lead, but the lady in charge was looking to step down and I had been there before and had some useful ideas last year, so it kind of made sense. We had a vote and now I am the boss, go figure! There’s some networking to be done and a bit of team structure to provide, but everything else seems to work fine, I just have to hold down the fort and recruit a few new volunteers. I’ve started reaching out to some people I know and there appears to be some interest. The agenda for the year is basically full, so it’s really up to us how crazy we want it to be, keeping in mind that we’re all volunteers.

Starting at SES
Coming Monday I’ll be joining the Hobson Bay SES team for the first time. Summer is a slow period for that sort of thing and they generally shut down until after Australia Day. I could have started last week, but I had another event going on, so this Monday it is. I look forward to it, after the initial awkwardness of meeting all these new people has passed I am sure it will be fun again. Especially now my training is done, I don’t have to be there all the time every time, so that’s more relaxed. Once autumn kicks off we’ll be seeing some more branches and a flood or two, good fun!
😊

Small Poppy Project
I started this book project last year and left it for a while near the end of the year because I wasn’t very organised around it, but two weeks ago I started getting back into it and this week I did my first 2-hour interview and I ended up giving this director some advice on his succession planning and how to go about it, how funny is that?! I have a few more interview options lined up and think I will learn a lot about positive change initiatives across Australia and New Zealand. I will also make many new valuable connections for the future, but it’s mostly about the stories. Once I have 25 I will launch a website and then grow it until have 100. I am aiming for end of this year, but if it takes longer, that’s okay, I am not getting paid anyway, but it’s a great feeling to create something with others that might inspire many of my change colleagues.

Design course
This week I did a 2-day visual facilitation course, it’s basically learning to draw to make meetings/trainings/workshops and that sort of thin more entertaining for the audience and myself. I always wanted to learn how to draw better and it’s quite amazing how much you can accomplish in just a few days. There’s a whole science to it of course, I won’t bore you with the details, but at some point, I might send you some of my art (priceless, no doubt 100 years from now) to show what I have learnt, for now I am practicing in my sketch book and that is great fun already. My hope is that if a picture can say 1,000 words and I use 40,000 words a day (or so it seems), I can draw more, speak less and listen more to what people are saying. Sometimes I get so tired of listening to myself talk, there seems to be no end to the ideas in my mind, but it can be exhausting to just keep talking, talking and talking and never run out of words. The deliberate method behind this drawing method will hopefully calm my mind and let the hamster of the wheel for a while 😊.
I’ve got my starter kit and will see if I can find some icons, the company that came up with it is called Bi-Ka-Blo and you guessed it, it’s German and means Bild-Karte-Block. They’ve teamed up with a writing utensil manufacturer called Neuland and they make really cool stuff. Anyway, once my skill has improved, I might just start illustrating these letters 😊

Perth
Yumi has to be in Perth for a while at the end of February and I am not working right now, so I am going along, and we’ll make it into a mini-holiday, traveling to the south-end of the West Coast and maybe also to the North. I’ll be by myself during the day for 3 of the 8 days we’re there, but I am meeting some change management people, a friend from a training last year and perhaps some people for the book and CMI events, I’ll keep myself occupied and out of trouble for sure. It’s my first time on the West Coast, getting a little excited already.

Beach cleaning
Yumi found this great initiative called beach patrol, where once a month, a group of volunteers gathers to clean up their local beach and surrounding area. We don’t have uniforms or get to write tickets (probably good with my authority complex) but we get to feel morally superior while we’re walking around with our fancy bags, picking up cigarette butts and all sorts of cans, bottles, bags and whatnot. We did our first run on Australia day and a group of 25 people collected 50kg of rubbish and 2,000 cigarette butts. That’s a pretty good haul if you ask me. Obviously, I would get it much more organised than they are now, but there’s something very relaxing about just doing the work and making people aware that what they throw on the ground actually ends up somewhere on the beach or in the water. Most are just lazy/unaware, some just don’t care.  A side initiative, I started bringing plastic bags with me when I go on walks around a lake nearby. The council does clean up in the area, but on most walks, I get 1-2 plastic shopping bags of rubbish and tissues, lots of tissues for some reason. I am under no illusion that it will make a ground-breaking difference but for me it’s more about doing something instead of just walking past it every time and complain.  This morning I collected 3 bags and was followed by some bird for 500 meters. First, I thought he/she was defending its territory, but it probably just wanted something to snack on from me 😊. I’ve got the next area scoped already, it’ at the back end of a sports field where there’s probably two bin bags worth of rubbish along a fence line. Something to look forward to, haha.

Books
Because I had so much time on my hands I started to read ‘smart’ books once more and gained so much new insights. Read a great book on Everyday ethics, that really made me think about choices I make and how I am pretty much on the right track so far. Also read “God is not great” (I think you’ll understand the author is not a fan of religion) to understand more about the problems people have with religion and not only was it a lot of fun because the author, it was also incredibly smart and gave a much better understanding of why religion is potentially the worst things we ever did to ourselves. Then I read “Switch” a classic on Change Management and that book reminded me of all the good professional lessons I had learned in the past 5 years. Followed by another change management book that is called Hacking for Agile change. I’ll not bore you with the details, it was smart and practical and written by someone I meet with and will do an online presentation (web-seminar) with in March. Still not done I read the Feminist Fight Club, which is exactly what it sounds like, a very funny and at the same time totally disturbing book about casual discrimination of women in society and the workplace. I care about inequality in any sense and felt I needed to understand this whole concept of modern feminism a lot better and now I do. I needed to go to Sydney to get my passport done, not much to say about that, it’s Sydney and I am still not a fan, but I read “what is a Googly” a book about cricket on the flight in, which means that now I have at least a basic understanding of the game and don’t have to look on in bemused confusion at what’s happening. Not that I will watch it, it’s almost as boring as tennis! Just yesterday I finished a book called ‘Seeing what others don’t” which is about how to get insights and be better at picking up cues from people and the environment. Another great read that explains the science between how we make sense of things.  Now that that’s done, I can get back to Homo Deus, a brilliant book about the future of humanity by a writer I read another book (Sapiens) from that really changed my perspective on how society has evolved over time since the last ice age, it’s so beautifully written I felt sad when I finished it.

VR-goggles
VR stands for Virtual Reality and it’s basically a really big pair of glasses with tv screens in them that you wear like a helmet and makes you experience games as if you are inside them. The technology is quite new still but much advanced from what it was 5 years ago. It takes a while to get used to it, sometimes you get a little vertigo on the side but even Yumi had great fun pretending to be a dragon, bonking things with ‘her’ head while I was the other player running for my life as she chased me through a cartoon city. She got so into it that she kicked the table and broke her nail (ouch!) and almost headbutted the table a few times. It was hilarious and terrifying to watch at the same time. I haven’t put much time in it yet, but will give it a few months, perhaps it’s not for me, but I just wanted to try the new technology. If nothing else, we can use it as a second TV because one can watch a tv series or movie via the game console, while the other can watch TV, not that we had much issues about that, but now I can game and Yumi can watch what she wants on TV too, so that’s very convenient as well. I’ve got a racing game and some trial games, will probably buy a few games to test what works and what doesn’t. It’s very exciting technology and I predict that in 5-10 years from now it will have found it’s way to mainstream business and we’ll all be using them.

Family and friends
Not much going on as far as we know. My parents are the same, Yumi’s parents got their first iPhone, so that’s very exciting for them and very funny to us to see how they make sense of this new technology. All our friends are doing family and life things as they would while their kids grow up and life takes its course. Yumi’s friend Hester is doing a reno on her house, quite curious to see how that will end up, the pictures look pretty good. My friend Alex is thinking of coming our way with the whole family this time, but that depends somewhat on if we will go to the Netherlands ourselves mid-2018. Yumi had this brilliant plan that would really benefit the disability sector but her organisation (NDS) just lacks the vision and courage to go that way and Yumi is not confident she can make it work with the Dutch organisation in Australia. I think it can really work and also think she needs to start looking for a new challenge, but she just signed a contract until June 2019, so we’ll see how that goes. There are some life events going on in the Netherlands with my  father turning 65, Yumi’s mom turning 70 and me turning 40 and probably some other stuff that I forget, so we could go, I am just not that keen, because 69 and 39 and 64 were equally special to me, it’s probably just my contrary nature and dislike of convention so I’ll take my cues from Yumi on this (as I do in most things anyway). We’ll see.
Work and jobs
Since the last letter I started a project at Deakin University and finished it too, for now. I made really good money and when I did a bit of an overview of the past three years we found that we had made very stable incomes and that the money had been very good each year. I might get back once again at Deakin, there’s still 40% of the budget left, but I was not going to sit there and cost money to make them feel confident and safe and after a fashion they appreciated that. I greatly enjoy working with them, they are all so smart and good at what they do and I can fully support the idea that a great education is the best way to have a better chance at the life you want. I have started looking for jobs, but it ever gets easier and most job adds are just so soul-crushing bad it makes me not want to apply. You’d think that organisations would get better at it but nothing is further from the truth. My network is getting stronger and I am building the start of a reputation but for now I will just have to be patient and see who wants to work with a weirdo like me.

Social media change
I’ve decided to be much less active on social media, you know, that thing you are totally not on, like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram? I felt much better already after a week and now I just check it once every few days and if there’s something really worthwhile I post it, but otherwise I just leave it. I use LinkedIn (Facebook for business) for work and am trying not to focus on like or reaching as many people as possible but instead writing what I want to write. It’s just so weird sometimes. I pour my heart and soul and hours of writing into a 2-page article about change management, get 120 views (pretty good and great feedback). I post a picture of my bad drawing skills and training certificate, gets 1,200 views! How does that even work?! I’ve decided that I will just do what I want, that the technology is there for me, to help me and not the other way around. I do see the benefits though, just this week I made new connections in New York, France, India, Hong Kong and Perth, they are not friends, but people who like what I do and perhaps somewhere down the line we can help each other out, who knows?
Also, sometimes it’s a great way to be found. In April I will be speaking about Fake Change at what’s looking to be a very cool Conference here in Melbourne, thanks to social media. I’ve also gotten involved in some volunteering with year 9 students for their professional development (no joke, it’s what they want nowadays) and will be guest lecturing at Deakin in March, also thanks to social media. It has its good and bad sides, I  guess.

This Tuesday Yumi and I celebrated 4 years in Australia and I made the below overview for friend and family on my blog earlier this week:

Today is a special day. I thought about this day for four years. What it would be like, where we would be, what we’d be doing and how special it would be to finally become eligible to be an Australian citizen. And now we can. But we probably won’t just yet because I would lose my Dutch citizenship and while I don’t care that much for a country that still hasn’t decided to evacuate and carpet bomb 020 (Amsterdam) and then make it into a parking lot for Rotterdam (the REAL capital), there are some implications to consider. So we’ll wait and probably have Yumi go first (ain’t nobody got no beef with Luxembourg) and then by marriage to an Australian, I will become a dual citizen of Australia, but not the Netherlands. Ha, take that you bunch of bureaucrats!

Anyway, it’s still a special day and something to celebrate and a great opportunity to reflect back on the good, the bad and the ‘meh’. We always knew we were going to have a great time, but ‘blue sky, blue sea’ has turned into something a bit more detailed now.

In no particular order, here’s what we feel we gained:

Diving
We wanted to dive more when we moved here and at first that happened, we got our Rescue Diver ticket (I will never drag Yumi back up a beach in full gear ever again. Ever!) then we lost interest for a bit and now we’re back at it. Having seen the Great Barrier Reef, gotten our nitrox badges and having dived parts of the East and South Coast too by now, it’s about as good as you imagine. Yes, the GBR is not what it used to be and yes, the bay of Melbourne can be a bit ‘refreshing’ but there’s still so much life and things to see, totally worth it.

Beautiful and extreme nature
From the ‘mountains’ to the rainforest to the flatlands and everything in between, this country is so diverse and every new twist and turn has a view worth stopping for to take it all in, unless you  live in Brunswick, then you can keep driving…I think our most used phrase (probably mine as I do most of the talking) is “Wat leven we toch in een mooi land!” (How beautiful is this country?!). Tasmania is probably still my favourite place to visit, but everything else are close seconds and thirds

Work and non-work friends
Australians are great people (when they are not driving a car) and we have met so many friendly lovely people and got to call some of them friend. Either through work, volunteering or just shared interests forced us to go out there and meet new folks and if you HAVE to make new friends, there’s really not much better than the fun loving and good natured Aussies.

Tax haven
It’s quite amazing how much more money we get to keep after taxes. Income wise it’s been a really good choice to move to Australia. We get to help others, live the life we want, buy what we want and still have money left for booze and drugs for the whole street! Well, it’s mostly Dan and Ethel, they party like it’s 1899 and they would know as they were alive back then.

Work experience (all cool jobs)
Yumi’s been kicking goals for years now with NDS and has no plans to go anywhere until she’s officially crowned Miss Sector Innovation 2019 and I could not be prouder of her dedication to a sector and organisation that needs all the help it can ask but is either too busy, distracted or confused to make real progress work. Good things she has some very good co-workers. Funny thing is that of the two of us, she is the real change manager, I am the Magpie (bird) that gets distracted by shiny new stuff and starts causing trouble when it gets bored. But the places I’ve been and the people I’ve worked with are nothing short of amazing and while I generally don’t stick around long enough to get a meeting room named after me, I like to believe that people are not lying when they tell me I made difference for the better.

Travel options
There’s so many places you can go and just see. In the Netherlands we wouldn’t go to a cemetery, shopping mall or farm to just SEE, but here we do and we shamelessly behave like tourists where Yumi has the most endearing quirk of pointing completely obvious things out to me as novelties. It’s a left-over thing from her Tour guide Barbie days where she would plan all our trips and I would just tag along as a simple-minded oaf. Now I actually make an effort to inform myself, so she can enjoy things a bit more. If you know our sightseeing schedules or ever been subjected to one, you know the pressure, so we’re both happy to not do that and enjoy thing a bit more (Look at that tree, Gil!). We still have to go to the NT and the real desert of WA, but according to a lot of nationals we meet, we’ve seen more of their country than they have, which is kind of cool.



Cultural insights
It’s one thing to read about living abroad, it’s another thing to do it and experience it for yourself with so many other cultures. It’s not the same as living in your home country and welcoming foreigners in, here, we are the foreigners even though we look the same (well, I do, but Yumi’s Asian appearance isn’t exactly a shocker in Pacific ASIA (!). We’ve gained so much perspective on what it means to really be part of a culture and slowly but steadily you feel yourself becoming more Australian than Dutch, it’s not something we pursue, it just happens gradually, and we welcome it as there’s worse things to turn into.

Education and training
This one only worked for me, as Yumi already is too smart for my own good, I have to keep training and educating myself. It’s great to live in a city so big that there’s always something going on or to involved with, or you hop on a plane/train and go and do it somewhere else. I got my change certification, then got another, then started improving on myself (I know, it’s work in progress) and I am doing a change visualisation facilitation workshop this week which hopefully improves my drawing skills considerably.

Kendo
We’re still a bit sad that it didn’t work out because most of the people were lovely and we might still be doing it if we had stayed in the ACT, but that next level sh*t of Kenshikan was just not for us. A pity as we have all the gear, but we might come back to it at some point, it’s a skill you can’t unlearn, just get better at once you know the basics, or so we tell ourselves

Left side of everything living
It seems that the more I understand about where to be on the road, pathways, escalators and hallways, the more people start messing with me. How hard can it really be? Cars on the left, people on the left. So not cars sort of on the left, people everywhere else, in my way, middle of the road, standing around in door opening. For goodness sake, some situational awareness would be great.

Appreciation for shorts
After 3 years and a winter I finally succumbed and bought new shorts. And actually wear them outside. It still feels wrong, but jeans get a bit uncomfortable in 35 degrees plus heat. I must be getting old. Still not wearing them to the workplace though, not that integrated just yet perhaps.

Fan of sunscreen
Living in this beautiful sun-drenched country (outside of Melbourne) you develop a healthy appreciation for sunscreen, the more SPF, the better. The sun here is not the sun in Europe and it is not your friend. Ever. You can easily tell why, looking at all the lobster red people (white tourists) moving around the city and beaches. See a covered person on the beach? Not a tourist. See a person waiting in the shade? Not a tourist. People eating inside in summer? Not tourists. Walking around in 40 degrees with a silly hat (yeah, that’s me).

State Emergency Services
Even without the chain sawing and breaking stuff it’s by far the most rewarding volunteering I can think of. People have a problem, you fix problem, people happy. Trees getting feisty, bring out chainsaw, tree calms down. A few hours a week to keep the skills going, meet people from all walks of life. Love it! Did I mention the chainsaw?

Passion for homelessness
It’s not often I stay with a cause or anything all that long but the more people I see living on the streets, the angrier I get. It’s not an out-of-control sort of anger that makes you want to break (or chainsaw) stuff, it’s a deep and slow burning anger that I feel will stay with me until I find a way to make a dent in the number of people living rough in Victoria and then the country. It’s a problem with a solution, we just need to find enough people to give a damn.

Living near the beach
Four years ago if you’d asked if could see myself living near the beach, I’d probably laughed and thought it would be Queensland or Perth, surely not Melbourne and definitely not Altona. I didn’t even know it existed. But here we are and we’re loving it!

Of course there’s also things that we lost along the way:

Some of my hair and a lot of skin
Not much we can do about getting older, well, of course there are options, but most of those are irreversible, so we’ll probably not go for those just yet. Yumi gets the occasional white hair, I just turned nearly completely grey and got more lines in my face, Yumi’s Asian vampire genes are kicking in and she basically looks like she did 5 years ago. Not sure how that’s fair, as she also has the looks and the smarts of the two of us, but I had plastic surgery and have abs, so that’s something.

Spike and Pluis
We came here with our two weapons of mass deconstruction and knew they were getting on in age but had a few years in them. Overall, they had a really good run to the finish line and got to see more of the world then just Rotterdam (enough for most cats). They got to board an aeroplane twice and eat all sorts of foreign bugs, sleep in the garden forever and never be cold. Also, together they financed at least two $10,000 holidays for our vets in Casey and Brunswick, I think there’s still a picture of them on the ‘our main benefactors’ wall of fame somewhere.

Dreams (fulfilled)
The dreams we had did not go away or get lost, they got fulfilled. A very first world problem to have is that we now have to keep coming up with new goals in life as this country and all its opportunities just keep helping us achieve them. Perhaps it’s time to come up with some really crazy stuff and see how far Australia will go to help us out.

Trying to find what I don't like about Oz, it's been 4 years…
This one is simple, if I can’t find it after looking for it for 4 years it probably just doesn’t exist. Sorted!

Life moments of friends and families
This is probably the biggest concern we had when moving here. It’s still quite amazing how a few Skype dates a month and social media keep us connected much more than we had anticipated. Of course, the visits of family and friends definitely made a big difference and we don’t know what we don’t know, but overall it worked much better than expected. 



6 February 2018

Living the good life for four years today

Today is a special day. I thought about this day for four years. What it would be like, where we would be, what we’d be doing and how special it would be to finally become eligible to be  an Australian citizen. And now we can. But we probably won’t just yet because I would lose my Dutch citizenship and while I don’t care that much for a country that still hasn’t decided to evacuate and carpet bomb 020 (Amsterdam) and then make it into a parking lot for Rotterdam (the REAL capital), there are some implications to consider. So we’ll wait and probably have Yumi go first (ain’t nobody got no beef with Luxembourg) and then by marriage to an Australian, I will become a dual citizen of Australia, but not the Netherlands. Ha, take that you bunch of bureaucrats!

Anyway, it’s still a special day and something to celebrate and a great opportunity to reflect back on the good, the bad and the ‘meh’. We always knew we were going to have a great time, but ‘blue sky, blue sea’ has turned into something a bit more detailed now.

In no particular order, here’s what we feel we gained:

Diving
We wanted to dive more when we moved here and at first that happened, we got our Rescue Diver ticket (I will never drag Yumi back up a beach in full gear ever again. Ever!) then we lost interest for a bit and now we’re back at it. Hhaving seen the Great Barrier Reef, gotten our nitrox badges and having dived parts of the East and South Coast too by now, it’s about as good as you imagine. Yes, the GBR is not what it used to be and yes, the bay of Melbourne can be a bit ‘refreshing’ but there’s still so much life and things to see, totally worth it.

Beautiful and extreme nature
From the ‘mountains’ to the rainforest to the flatlands and everything in between, this country is so diverse and every new twist and turn has a view worth stopping for to take it all in, unless you  live in Brunswick, then you can keep driving…I think our most used phrase (probably mine as I do most of the talking) is “Wat leven we toch in een mooi land!” (How beautiful is this country?!). Tasmania is probably still my favourite place to visit, but everything else are close seconds and thirds

Work and non-work friends
Australians are great people (when they are not driving a car) and we have met so many friendly lovely people and got to call some of them friend. Either through work, volunteering or just shared interests forced us to go out there and meet new folks and If you HAVE to make new friends, there’s really not much better than the fun loving and good natured Ausies.

Tax haven
It’s quite amazing how much more money we get to keep after taxes. Income wise it’s been a really good choice to move to Australia. We get to help others, live the life we want, buy what we want and still have money left for booze and drugs for the whole street! Well, it’s mostly Dan and Ethel, they party like it’s 1899 and they would know as they were alive back then

Work experience (all cool jobs)
Yumi’s been kicking goals for years now with NDS and has no plans to go anywhere until she’s officially crowned Miss Sector Innovation 2019 and I could not be prouder of her dedication to a sector and organisation that needs all the help it can ask but is either too busy, distracted or confused to make real progress work. Good things she has some very good co-workers. Funny thing is that of the two of us, she is the real change manager, I am the Magpie (bird) that gets distracted by shiny new stuff and starts causing trouble when it gets bored. But the places I’ve been and the people I’ve worked with are nothing short of amazing and while I generally don’t stick around long enough to get a meeting room named after me, I like to believe that people are not lying when they tell me I made difference for the better.

Travel options
There’s so many places you can go and just see. In the Netherlands we wouldn’t go to a cemetery, shopping mall or farm to just SEE, but here we do and we shamelessly behave like tourists where Yumi has the most endearing quirk of pointing completely obvious things out to me as novelties. It’s a left-over thing from her Tourguide Barbie days where she would plan all our trips and I would just tag along as a simple minded oaf. Now I actually make an effort to inform myself so she can enjoy things a bit more. If you know our sightseeing schedules or ever been subjected to one, you know the pressure, so we’re both happy to not do that and enjoy thing a bit more (Look at that tree, Gil!)
We still have to go to the NT and the real desert of WA, but according to a lot of nationals we meet, we’ve seen more of their country than they have, which is kind of cool.

Cultural insights
It’s one thing to read about living abroad, it’s another thing to do it and experience it for yourself with so many other cultures. It’s not the same as living in your home country and welcoming foreigners in, here, we are the foreigners even though we look the same (well, I do, but Yumi’s Asian appearance isn’t exactly a shocker in Pacific ASIA (!). We’ve gained so much perspective on what it means to really be part of a culture and slowly but steadily you feel yourself becoming more Australian than Dutch, it’s not something we pursue, it just happens gradually and we welcome it as there’s worse things to turn into.

Education and training
This one only worked for me, as Yumi already is too smart for my own good, I have to keep training and educating myself. It’s great to live in a city so big that there’s always something going on or to  involved with, or you hop on a plane/train and go and do it somewhere else. I got my change certification, then got another, then started improving on myself (I know, it’s work in progress) and I am doing a change visualisation facilitation workshop this week which hopefully improves my drawing skills considerably.

Kendo
We’re still a bit sad that it didn’t work out because most of the people were lovely and we might still be doing it if we had stayed in the ACT, but that next level sh*t of Kenshikan was just not for us. A pity as we have all the gear, but we might come back to it at some point, it’s a skill you can’t unlearn, just get better at once you know the basics, or so we tell ourselves

Left side of everything living
It seems that the more I understand about where to be on the road, pathways, escalators and hallways, the more people start messing with me. How hard can it really be? Cars on the left, people on the left. So not cars sort of on the left, people everywhere else, in my way, middle of the road, standing around in door opening. For goodness sake, some situational awareness would be great.

Appreciation for shorts
After 3 years and a winter I finally succumbed and bought new shorts. And actually wear them outside. It still feels wrong, but jeans get a bit uncomfortable in 35 degree plus heat. I must be getting old. Still not wearing them to the workplace though, not that integrated just yet perhaps.

Fan of sunscreen
Living in this beautiful sun-drenched country (outside of Melbourne) you develop a healthy appreciation for sunscreen, the more SPF, the better. The sun here is not the sun in Europe and it is not your friend. Ever. You can easily tell why, looking at all the lobster red people (white tourists) moving around the city and beaches. See a covered person on the beach? Not a tourist. See a person waiting in the shade? Not a tourist. People eating inside in summer? Not tourists. Walking around in 40 degrees with a silly hat (yeah, that’s me).

State Emergency Services
Even without the chainsawing and breaking stuff it’s by far the most rewarding volunteering I can think of. People have a problem, you fix problem, people happy. Trees getting feisty, bring out chainsaw, tree calms down. A few hours a week to keep the skills going, meet people from all walks of life. Love it! Did I mention the chainsaw?

Passion for homelessness
It’s not often I stay with a cause or anything all that long but the more people I see living on the streets, the angrier I get. It’s not an out-of-control sort of anger that makes you want to break (or chainsaw) stuff, it’s a deep and slow burning anger that I feel will stay with me until I find a way to make a dent in the number of people living rough in Victoria and then the country. It’s a problem with a solution, we just need to find enough people to give a damn.

Living near the beach
Four years ago if you’d asked if could see myself living near the beach, I’d probably laughed and thought it would be Queensland or Perth, surely not Melbourne and definitely not Altona. I didn’t even know it existed. But here we are and we’re loving it!

Of course there’s also things that we lost along the way:

Some of my hair and a lot of skin
Not much we can do about getting older, well, of course there are options, but most of those are irreversible, so we’ll probably not go for those just yet. Yumi gets the occasional white hair, I just turned nearly completely grey and got more lines in my face, Yumi’s Asian vampire genes are kicking in and she basically looks like she did 5 years ago. Not sure how that’s fair, as she also has the looks and the smarts of the two of us, but I had plastic surgery and have abs, so that’s something.

Spike and Pluis
We came here with our two weapons of mass deconstruction and knew they were getting on in age, but had a few years in them. Overall they had a really good run to the finih line and got to see more of the world then just Rotterdam (enough for most cats). They got to board an aeroplane twice and eat all sorts of foreign bugs, sleep in the garden forever and never be cold. Also, together they financed at least two $10,000 holidays for our vets in Casey and Brunswick, I think there’s still a picture of them on the ‘our main benefactors’ wall of fame somewhere.

Dreams (fullfilled)
The dreams we had did not go away or get lost, they got fulfilled. A very first world problem to have is that we now have to keep coming up with new goals in life as this country and all its opportunities just keep helping us achieve them. Perhaps it’s time to come up with some really crazy stuff and see how far Australia will go to help us out.

Trying to find what I don't like about Oz, it's been 4 years…
This one is simple, if I can’t find it after looking for it for 4 years it probably just doesn’t exist. Sorted!

Life moments of friends and families

This is probably the biggest concern we had when moving here. It’s still quite amazing how a few Skype dates a month and social media keep us connected much more than we had anticipated. Of course the visits of family and friends definitely made a big difference and we don’t know what we don’t know, but overall it worked much better than expected. 

8 December 2017

Letter to Marlis Oct-Nov 2017

Gilbert and Yumi
1c Body Street
3018 Altona, Victoria

Altona, 9 December 2017


Hi Marlis,

That’s 2017 nearly done already, letter writing time! I hope you’re warm and well in the ACT ow that summer is here, it’s been quite wet for the last couple of days in Victoria, but summer seems to be on the way now. Not too much has happened in the past few months, but a few big things did come to pass, so here we go.

We’ve moved house!
Three weeks ago, we moved to Altona, which is near Hoppers Crossing, Williamstown and most importantly, the ocean. We’d been looking and looking in Brunswick, but couldn’t really agree on a house or area so we kept going in circles, looking throughout Melbourne until Yumi changed her requirements of being close to work and suggested we look in Altona. We found at least 10 houses we liked, did two weekends of house inspections and got it all sorted in no time. The house is much newer and modern (2011-ish), the gardens are maintained (yay!), we’ve got 1 room less, most of our furniture moved with us, aircon in all rooms and it just feels like more of a home. I can see much more of the sky, feel much less enclosed and it’s a lot quitter even though we live fairly close to the train tracks. Oh and did I mention we pay about $800/month less in rent? Pretty good huh?! 😊

Because of my being self-employed the whole move worked out quite well. I had enough time to prepare everything on the days I didn’t work and managed to make it all happen around Yumi’s busy travel and work schedule. The move to Melbourne from the ACT was a bit fragmented because of the distance and I did most of the work, but this time Yumi worked like a beast too and we moved everything in one day. There was an inspection planned on the Saturday we moved out and we literally vacated the house completely 5 minutes before everyone went in to look around. So funny, it was like loading a move truck to an audience of about 15 people. I was planning to go back and clean the house later, so after the inspection (we waited outside and took a break) we chatted to the real estate agent and he was commenting how clean it all was, haha, we had only vacuumed, but thanks! I had arranged to go back on Thursday and do the cleaning, but the mandatory carpet cleaning guy and I had a misunderstanding and he ended up cleaning the whole house as part of his services. I’ll readily admit, best extra $125 dollars I’ve ever spent, that house was CLEAN for real. Mowed the lawn, I had lain myself in the first week there in 2016, dropped of the key, got a haircut down the road and that was it for us and Brunswick. Even though it’s been good to live there, I will not miss it at all.

Living here changed a lot of things. For example, now both of us no longer cycle to work, but we take the train together, which is very nice. We always used to drive into work together and Yumi would drop me off and pick me up in the city, when we lived in the ACT and we missed that time together when we moved to Melbourne. Now we at least ride the train in together on most days, which is safer than riding a bike on any day in Melbourne. I do miss cycling a bit, but not the risk of getting hit by cars and having to look out for stupid people on their phones. Also, the ocean is a 5-minute walk from our house, which is really nice. Close enough to enjoy it, not close enough to get flooded when the weather gets feisty. There’s less restaurant options, but we’re simple people anyway and there’s so many neighbouring towns that we have options enough. Also, the city is 25 minutes away by train (15 km), it’s not like we’re living in the outback or something. Actually, it’s very much like living in Casey again, without the Brindabellas on the background and the hills, but with Canberra close enough for comfort and Gungahlin for shopping (that’s Werribee now). It was always a dream of ours to live near the sea and now we do! I’ll tell you a bit more about what it’s all like in the next letter, when we’ve lived here a bit longer. Right now, it’s just nice that every single time we say we moved to Altona, people always go: “I love Altona, well done!”

Pluis passed away
It wasn’t completely unexpected, but our second and last cat, Pluis (Fluffy) passed away two weeks ago, only one week after the move. She’d been getting old and slowing down, getting sick more and more and then we had the whole blind, not blind and blind again episodes. She stuck with us through so much and we with her, but she was just done and as far as passings go, hers was calm and dignified. On our first weekend after the move I found her in a state downstairs and after having been to the vet in Altona once already to see if there was anything we could do for her still, we decided it was enough and we’d let her keep her dignity till the end. As fortune had it, it was a beautiful sunny morning, so I woke Yumi and we took turns with Pluis on our laps, sitting in the garden and morning sun from 6.30 to 11.20, got in the car for her last ride at 11.25 and it was all done by 11.45. She was so calm and restful through it all, which is not like her moody, grumpy and ferocious self, that we knew we’d done the right thing. Of course, we are very sad to lose our last pet/guard dog, but out of the three we lost, Pluis went out on the best possible terms (hers). I picked up her ashes this Wednesday, so now she’s back home with the other two, forever sleeping in the sun, she would have liked that 😊. I managed to find a cat rescue shelter to come and pick up all the cat stuff we had no need for anymore so there’s no visual reminders and they were really happy to have the litterboxes, feeding trays, food, toys, brushes and some of the medicine. It’s amazing how much stuff we had, but at least they’ll put it to good use! It’s still a bit strange to not have some one to talk to when I am home alone or when we go to work and come back, but we’ll get used to it and have agreed that we’ll not have a new pet for a good long while after having had pets for the past 18 years. Let’s see how that goes.

Back at Deakin University
Right after the last letter I sent you, I got a call from Deakin University if I’d be interested to come back and the terms were so favourable that I could not say no to such a great place to work. So I am back, for a ridiculously well-paid three days a week doing what I love in change, communication and staff engagement. Yep, that’s a job nowadays 😊. I get to work with all these great people I used to work with and some new ones that are quite impressive as well. This second time around I see new and different things again, but have the advantage to know how things work. It’s great to come in and get cracking straight away. I am involved in two projects that will redesign the study content of two major degrees (the Master of Business Administration, or MBA and the Bachelor of Laws). My job is to explain to everyone else how this will impact their jobs and the way things get done, oh and to stop them from killing each other, but they are generally very friendly, be it a bit confused and distracted at times. I do enjoy the pressure of having to perform every single day and it’s not that I am ever impressed with myself, but I work really hard for the money they pay me and we get so much done every week. Love it! I’ll be there until end of February/mid-March and after that we’ll see. By then I’ve made enough money for a year, like I said, ridiculously well paid…

SES
That’s another thing that’s changing now we’re in Altona, I have to move units from Essendon to Hobson Bay City (Altona is part of that council) and there’s always paperwork in the SES. But before I said goodbye to my old unit and great volunteer SES buddies I got a heap of training done. After completing my General Rescue (qualified SES person) I also got Safe Working At Heights (SWAHS) where you learn how to work on roof wearing a climbing harness and do 100 safety checks and most importantly, I got my CHAINSAW license!!!!! That was so much fun. We were a group of about 10 people and had one day of theory, which was really boring, but two days of chopping up trees and making a spectacle of ourselves. I think between the 10 of us, only 5 trees were felled, so my nature loving heart was okay and they were all pines, which are not native and apparently the training company gets paid to take them down. All joking aside, I really learned a lot about staying safe, tree hazards, different cutting techniques and how heavy trees really are. On the third and final day, in 30 degrees, we had to debranch a 15-meter tree and then cut it up. It took 6 of us about 3 hours to make that happen, most of the time being spent on hauling away branches and dodging huge spiders who were not at all impressed with our noisy chainsaws and home wrecking. Seriously, some were as big as the palm of my hand! It’s funny though. In the Netherlands, when people see even a daddy longlegs it’s cause for great alarm, lots of swatting and trying to crush it with a shoe. Here a plate-sized Huntsman sort of casually strolls over your boot/leg/arm, makes eye contact (all 8 of them) and then casually walks away while everybody eats their lunch like it’s no big deal. I think I was the most excited by far. Gotta love Aussies 😊. I’ll have to wait a few weeks for the paperwork to clear but have visited with the new unit already, they seem nice and train on the same Monday, so I’ll get used to that fast enough. Also, it’s just a kilometre from my house. I wasn’t expecting that they would turn me down, being fully trained and all, but I look forward to meeting new people once again and who knows, maybe I get to do a land and water search course, which involves boats and potentially even scuba diving, which happens to be the next topic too!

Holiday time
Next Saturday we’ll be on a plane to sunny Queensland and a few days of finally diving in the Cairns part of the Great Barrier Reef. It’s one of those live-aboard things where you stay on the boat for three days and basically dive all day (3-4 each day). It will be our first time to dive like this, but we’ve been on our fair share of dive boats and it’s a skill you don’t really lose even though it’s been close to two years since our last dive ☹. We just had all our gear serviced and plan to do a refresher dive when we get to Cairns in the first few days, but there’s also a trip to the rain forest, some crocodile touring and probably just a bit of relaxing too. It’s only a week to try it out, but if we like it, we might go on a longer one next year. Western Australia is on the calendar for April 2018, which might also involve diving and maybe Yumi will go to the Netherlands in May/June 2018 for work ,so it could be that I accompany her now that we have no pet to look after. I hope Cairns is still as nice as we remember it from 7 years ago when we first put foot on Australian soil. When we were on the East Coast in 2010 we planned to do some diving on the Whitsundays, but then a cyclone hit Airlie Beach and it all got cancelled. We’ll be back home by Christmas day and spend the rest of the time off traveling the neighbourhood, maybe do some more diving near Williamstown, scout the neighbouring towns and maybe go to the Alpine Highway area. We’ve still got a lot to see there and the views can be spectacular on sunny days.

I am writing a book
You’ll probably not be too surprised about that, but it’s not what you might think. Having been to so many events and meeting so many different people in the work of change, I started to notice that there’s this cultural thing with Australians where they are culturally incapable of saying they’ve done a good thing. Tall poppy syndrome and all that. The change management profession could really do with some good examples of when change worked out really well to inspire others to give it a try. So I’ve decided to take the whole of next year and make a project of collecting these stories, grouping them in some way and publish them on a website or maybe in print if that works. Not to make money or promote myself, I just want to give back to the community of change minded individuals.
I’ve named it “The Small Poppy” project and so far, I’ve got 5 contributions (aiming for 50-100) but that’s just on the first message out there. One from the NT, one from Perth, one from Melbourne, one from Canberra and even one from New Zealand! My plan is to contact individuals in my network and have them recommend me to others. I will learn so much and hear great things for sure. I will also attempt to not go for the big organisations, but rural and regional or the unlikely suspects like disability care providers, the Sydney Harbour Bridge and organisations you never hear about in the news for a change. I asked 25 of my closest change people and 24.5 thought it was a great idea, so I will get going and let you know how it goes.

Family and friends
Mostly good things going on in the family and friends department. My parents had a really nice holiday early October. All our friends’ kids are either doing great in school, sports or just growing up and there’s no health or medical issues, so lots to be grateful for. Some are changing jobs, some probably should and others are just happy where they are 😊. Yumi’s best friend Hester is almost done with her 18-month MBA studies (besides being a mom of 2, having their house renovated and having a stupidly busy job), which is a truly amazing achievement. My friend Alex is starting a new job next year in the rail and train business, which is great because his old one just didn’t work for him. Another friend is rebuilding part of her house and those pictures look like one of those tv renovation shows, wow! Other friends just sold their house and bought a new one, while starting new jobs and all that. The Amsterdam mob are also doing just fine with all sorts of projects and activities and Yumi’s parents are stable and steady as always. My parents are doing okay. My dad got great news on his leg, the bones have basically completely regrown and connected in all the right places after just 7 months, which is quite the achievement for a 64-year old. I am not a great believer in acupuncture and all that, but he was having really bad nerve pain from the break and now he is doing much better so we’re all very happy that it works for him. Unfortunately, he also developed shingles and it’s a pretty bad case according to the doctor but somehow my dad manages to stay positive through it all. 

Short mentions
·    - Yumi’s been crazy busy at work, but she seems to enjoy herself so I just help where I can and get out of the way for the rest of it.a
-  I’ve joined the Change Management Institute Committee again, felt that I had left too soon and am looking to organise a conference end of next year, that should be fun!
- Still not getting this Xmas in summer thing, maybe next year.
- I got my ears cleaned, had to use eardrops for a week and was nearly deaf for 3 days, that was so weird! But now I’ve got full stereo once more and leaning forward doesn’t hurt my neck anymore and makes me less red in the face, funny thing that.
-Thank you for the birthday card, our Xmas card is on the way 😊
-Can’t believe it’s almost 2 years since we said goodbye in person, I should really visit the ACT soon.
-Just a few more months and we’ll be living in Australia for 4 years, which means that I can apply for citizenship. Doing that means I’ll have to give up my Dutch citizenship because the Dutch law has changed and dual citizenship is no longer and option. Not sure if I mind that too much, I’ve always felt more connected to Rotterdam anyway, but I have to think about it a bit more

Have a lovely and drama-free Christmas with the family and a healthy, sunny and prosperous 2018

Gilbert




13 October 2017

Letters to Marlis Aug-Sept 2017

Brunswick, 13 October 2017

Hi Marlis,

I hope all is well with you and the ACT, Melbourne is windy and all over the place weather-wise, so all is as it should be 😊. Sorry I am somewhat late this time, it’s been a bit busy the past few weeks and I wanted to sit down and write a proper letter and not have to rush things, so here we go!

Adelaide and Kangaroo island
We had the opportunity two weeks back with the silly Victorian national holiday for AFL Grand Final day to have a nice break. Yumi needed to go to Adelaide for work anyway, so I just followed her, travelling by myself after not having been there for almost exactly 5 years. From a brisk 5-7am morning walk on Friday I can report it hasn’t changed much, but I still like it better than Melbourne. It’s still a big city and the CBD seems a bit more developed, the botanical gardens are still phenomenal and the buildings are not as crowded and high as in Melbourne. I’ve asked Yumi to see if she can get a transfer there for work, but she didn’t seem too keen, so I guess we’re stuck here for a while, haha. Our actual destination was Kangaroo Island, which is a nice 45-minute fast ferry ride to the south and it’s a great holiday destination indeed. I had to entertain myself in Christies Beach, but managed just fine with some reading, shopping, beach walks in the sun, feeding fries to the sea gulls and doing a small bit of work until Yumi finished her work and we left for the ferry. Before we even got on we’d already spotted two dolphins just relaxing in the bay, hiding from a really big storm just 10 kilometres out which just passed us by without a drop of rain to bother us. Funny thing was, while we were standing there, after a bus, train, plane and car ride of 850 kilometres, I end up standing on a dock waiting for a boat and the guy next to me also happens to be Dutch…(I think he was from Amsterdam, not great) The Dutch are truly everywhere, haha!
Kangaroo Island was very nice. We stayed for 3 nights, arriving Thursday, leaving Sunday and that’s enough to see most things. We took a very entertaining guided boat tour and saw some more dolphins, a few of them sleeping on the surface and heaps of seals, but no whales or sharks (that would have been very lucky). The coast line itself is also pretty spectacular. In places, the rock texture looks very much like Swiss cheese, holes all over. We had not yet seen that sort of rock formations before in Australia. We also saw koalas, a blonde echidna, black cockatoos and of course a few kangaroos (but not as many as you’d think for a place called Kangaroo Island). I think we stopped by four or five lighthouses, a place called Remarkable Rocks (they were indeed remarkable, courtesy of wind erosion) and about 15 beaches. Yumi and I just love watching the ocean and there was plenty of wave crashing going on with rather strong winds. A really good break!

Pluis
When we go home we got quite a fright when we found that Pluis has gone completely blind. She’s better now, but here’s what happened. The week before we left, we had noticed she was behaving a bit strange, but we put that down to her generally being a strange cat and expected it to just pass as it usually does. She ate a bit less, moved a bit less, miaowed a bit more, but that was it. Only when I shone a light in her eyes and her pupils did not contract at all did we realise she was as blind as a bat. We went to the vet, got a referral to the animal eye clinic (I did not know we had one) and they could not find anything really wrong with her, but agreed that she was indeed completely blind. We got meds to treat for inflammation and what do you know, 5 days later the light went back on and her pupils started contracting, yay! Since then she’s been pretty much her grumpy loveable self again. We just visited the vet for a check-up yesterday (after a gruelling 90-minute car trip through Melbourne traffic with a very unhappily yowling Pluis) and they tell us her left is not as good as the right yet, but the sight recovery is a very good sign in a cat her age (she was not impressed with that 😊). We’ll continue with the meds and go back 3 weeks from now for a final check. It was amazing to see how fast and well she adapted (but perhaps she’d been going blind for a while, who knows?!). After just 1-2 days of softly bumping into things she basically moved more coordinated through the house and yards than I do myself on a good day. The vet told us that cats and dogs have much better spatial awareness and memory then humans and she definitely proved them right!

Yumi’s work
Yumi’s very busy still. Just this morning she said that there’s quieter times coming and I just laughed. Every time she says that, new and interesting things come her way, but it would be good because she’s been working long days at all hours for the past 6-9 months. Good thing she’s having fun, meeting heaps of people, doing all sorts of great things for the disability sector. In just 2 weeks she went from Melbourne to Adelaide to Hobart to Perth and back, with a last-minute cancellation from the ACT, but she’ll go there in just a few weeks anyway. They were remodelling the office during that time anyway so she was happy to be away but it’s not a sustainable pace that she has now. I am trying to help her think of new ways of doing things, but she has to do it her way (as usual).  

Done at Deakin University
I always used to say that my job at ACT Government was probably the best one I ever left, but I am now thinking that it might have been bumped to second place by Deakin University. I had such a great time and we achieved so much in a short time that people were amazed when I announced that I would finish up after 5 instead of 7 months. It’s a simple case of being done. Of course, there were more opportunities, but it just didn’t work out with the timing and I am never one to ask to be included in something, it has to happen more or less naturally or it’s not meant to be. My manager and a lot of other people were so very nice it was both heart-warming and a bit embarrassing. I mean, I was hired to do a job and I did it, what were they expecting? I learned so much about education, how universities work, new tools, new themes and I met tons of smart and very nice people. I would definitely go back there if the opportunity presented itself. For now, it’s okay to leave. I came in to a job that was just under my level and I knew this but wanted the experience of having worked at a university. But when new and bigger opportunities arose, people did not necessarily think of me because I was just a level x,y,z employee and not the level a,b,c they were looking for. A few people advised me to leave and perhaps come back for something else. We’ll see what happens, I have had a great experience regardless!

Workshop
For my personal and professional development I attended a 3 day workshop in September and it really helped me to further focus my activities. Can you imagine, me even more focused? People are about to call the police, haha! I was hosted by a man I respect deeply, Daryl Conner, who’s been a founding member of the change management community in the 1970’s and 80’s. 70 years old and still travelling the world, working with aid and not for profit organisations to help them be more effective. The workshop title was, ‘Raising your game’. How American can you get,huh?! but it was really all about character and presence. There were only 12 of us to keep it manageable and I got sooooo much out of it. I found out many things about myself and how and why I work, but also about how I can get beyond some things that have been holding me back for years. The main take away for me was that I just need to start doing things again instead of waiting for permission, it’s not going to happen that people will come to me, so I will go out and find them. I feel like I can take more ownership for my own career choices and that somehow, I see things much clearer now. Not because I learned new things, but because I was affirmed in so many things that I always thought were true already. I thought it was just me thinking these things, but it turns out I am not the only one at all. I was very relieved to not be unique it was kind of funny. My next challenge is to find jobs and work that really bring out the best in me for my clients and not to just go for jobs I know I can do. Should be exciting…

Change and Culture Conference
A few weeks back I was asked to speak at a change management conference in 2018 and I was quite excited, worked out all the details and then I was told that the spot promised to me was given to a more prominent and renowned speaker and I could pick something else but less attractive. I politely thanked them for the opportunity and mentioned that I would rather not be anyone’s second choice and withdrew. They did not appreciate that at all. Oh well. A few days later I was contacted by a very different group of people asking me upfront if I was willing to step in because their original chair had to cancel. I was a bit hesitant at first, seen to my previous experience and not having been a conference chair before, but decided that I should give it a try. Normally you hear these things weeks if not months in advance. I heard it on 5 October and the event was from 9-11 October. I thought, why not celebrate my birthday (thank you for the lovely card! 😊) with 40 random people, learning new things while doing a new thing? They were three great days with really inspiring speakers, meaningful discussions about culture and change, nice snacks and a great way to see where our profession is at currently. I got lots of compliments on how I did things, one person even mentioned that she could tell we had prepared for months (ehm, not quite, haha). The best part for me was a small session on Wednesday that I got to host with just 4 people from very different organisations, discussing ways to improve corporate culture, much more my cup of coke zero 😊. Now that I’ve done it I can say it’s not really something I enjoy immensely. I’d rather be in the crowd than up on the stage for these sorts of things. It was a pleasant experience and I am happy to know I can pull it off if required but I’ll leave it to others next time perhaps. Either way, I got to be there for free while others paid between $2,500 to $4,000 for the privilege of seeing and hearing some of Australia’s best and biggest companies talk about change and culture. (yep, that’s still a lot of money!)
Cycling adventures
I am still cycling a lot and enjoy it a bit more every week. It hasn’t become any safer, but at least now that the light is back on in the mornings and evenings, everyone can see everyone a bit better. Remember how I once mentioned that I was (rightfully so) chastised by a fellow cyclist for running a series of red lights? I learned my lesson and will mostly wait now. There are times when there’s really no point (as in, no one in sight and no traffic) and I ignore them and that’s when another fellow found it necessary to speed past and hurl some abuse my way on behalf of all of humanity who was ever endangered by my utter disregard for red lights and the central order of the universe. I thanked him in a typical Rotterdam way by yelling back at him. He just kept on. Not my finest moment…I might have mentioned before that I have a bit of an authority complex and some random yahoo who feels it’s his job to educate me on the finer points of red lights and empty roads just doesn’t do it for me. (well, he was there, behind me, clearly endangered by whatever I did at 18 km/h on an 8 meter wide road). I am sure he could be angry about many other things or maybe he is 😊. Anyway, I plan to cycle more than 100 km in one day very soon to get closer to my devious plan of cycling from Melbourne to Adelaide or beyond in the near future. If I plan it a bit better and take enough food and drink (I’ll be burning some 3,000 calories and lose about 4 liter of fluids) it should be fine. My bike is starting to wear and tear a bit but after nearly 7,000 hard kms in Oz, I can’t really blame it, perhaps I need a new one soon.

Summer holiday
We’re almost done planning our summer holiday to the East coast, the only thing left is to decide if it will be in a campervan or by plane. We’re going diving on a liveaboard (sleep on the boat) for a few days for the first time and I think it will be great. It is quite expensive so we’ll do a short one first and if we really like it, we can always go for a longer one next time. I was happy to dive and fly, but Yumi wanted something more so now we’re looking at options for flying to Cairns and then driving a campervan down back to Melbourne. It’s a good 3,000 kms, but we should be able to do that in a week easily, see a bit of the inner country too if possible. I wanted to go from Cairns to Alice Springs but that’s another 1,500 added and perhaps a bit too much for the fun of it.

House hunt
We’ve been looking at moving to a new house for a while now. Not that that there’s really anything wrong with this one (aside from the heating being broken again), but it’s just too big and two rooms are empty. We could probably do with something smaller and a friendlier rent. By now we’ve got a pretty good process for finding options and have viewed about 12 houses across town. I am not fond of Brunswick (or Melbourne) but it’s not terrible and living outside of the city is just not a real great option now. We came close a few times, but either the house is great and the neighbourhood isn’t (busy road, next door to a primary school, at the bottom of a steep hill) or the neighbourhood is quite nice but the house is just a bit dodgy (cheap fixtures/appliances, grimy walls, shoddy carpets). We’re not really in a rush and we pretty much know what to look for so now we just wait for the right one to become available. A strange thing about these viewings is that the weekday viewings are so incredibly busy with 15 couples/individuals/families showing up as the rule and then the Saturday ones are just a few people or just us. Suits me fine 😊. Now that I have a bit more time on my hands, I am hoping we’ll make the move soon and get it all sorted.

Some short mentions
·       My parents are just back from a short break in Spain, with all the drama in their lives, they could do with a holiday and they had a great time, with my dad already up and about and his leg healing nicely.
·       I’ve passed my SES exam and am now a real team member.I am currently learning how to be safe on roofs, will soon do a chainsaw course and will also take a storm and flood damage course.
·       All other family and friends are in good health, nothing truly spectacular there, which is good
·       I am thinking of writing a book on Australian business change success stories, doing some thinking and talking to people who are smart about those things. I think the profession needs it and so far feedback on the idea has been good, I’ll let you know where things stand next time

I think that’s all I have to share for now. I hope you get to enjoy the sun enough in the next few months and that your family is well.

Until next time, be well

Gilbert